Coming out, and figuring out your identity in general, can be a challenging, confusing, and often frightening process. If you need guidance, reaching out to those who have been able to help can really help. While the coming out process is different for everyone, learning the stories of other LGBTQ people can result in not only immersing yourself in the community but also helping you along the way.
Below are quotes from nine LGBTQ celebrities who have publicly shared their wisdom about how to get out and be your truest self.
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Umbrella Academy’s actor Elliot Page came out as trans in 2020.
“I love that I’m trans. And I love that I’m queer. And the more I hold on to myself and hug myself for who I am, the more I dream, the more my heart grows and the more I thrive. To all trans people who deal with harassment, self-hatred, abuse and threats of violence on a daily basis: I see you, I love you and I will do anything to change this world for the better. “
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Beauty guru Nikkie – known as NikkieTutorials – -peared as a tranny to her millions of followers on YouTube after starting her transition in her childhood. She hoped her story could inspire the “little Nikkies” who hoped to be her freest selves.
“Just like me, you can write your own story. Live your life without restrictions. You can be you You decide how you want to sh -e your life. This world needs us, we have to accept each other, we have to respect each other. But above all we have to hear and understand each other. The time for you to love yourself and express yourself the way you really feel is now. When you feel like you are tr -ped and there is no way out, you know it will get better. Trust me, it will get better. “
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Dance Moms Sensation Jojo spoke about her sexuality by sharing a picture of herself wearing an iconic t-shirt that said, “Best. H -py. Cousin. Ever. ‘ During an Instagram live, she offered a comforting reminder to fans who are afraid of coming out.
“Right now it’s important that you know that it doesn’t matter who you love, that it’s okay and great, and that the world is there for you. “There are so many people who are there for you. I know everyone’s situation is different and it might be harder for some people and easier for some to come out or be themselves, but I think coming out has this stigma that it’s really, really is scary, but it is no more.
“There are so many accepting and loving people out there. Of course people will say it’s not normal, but nothing is normal. Literally nothing is normal about anyone and it’s okay not to be normal, it’s okay to be a little bit different, it’s okay to be a little bit weird, weird to be different. This is something we should never be afraid of. We can be proud of that. “
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13 reasons star Tommy re-introduced herself to the world as a transgender woman in an interview with Time Magazine, sharing that she felt “genuinely h -py” for the first time in transition. When asked what she would say to trans young people who are not quite there yet, she gave a short and simple but poignant answer.
“You are held by God. I got it tattooed and it’s a nice memory for anyone who has problems. “
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Joshua Bassette has failed to reveal his LGBTQ identity and is a reminder to others that there is no rush to get a label for who you are. He thinks people shouldn’t come out at all.
“There are many letters in the alphabet so why bother to come to one conclusion? Sometimes your letter changes, sometimes try another, sometimes you find that you are not what you thought you are, or maybe you always knew it. All of this can be true. I’m excited to be part of the LGBTQ community because it includes everyone. Don’t let anyone tell you that love is not love. It is you who probably need it most. “
Rebecca Black attends Kohl’s opening event for her pop-up “New Gifts At Every Turn” on November 6, 2019 in New York City. Shutterstock
“Friday” hit maker Rebecca Black struggled to accept her queerness. It felt “too late” to come out in her late teens, but now she knows that coming out has no time limit. There is no rush.
“One thing I struggled with was that I was around 19 or 20 years old when I started getting into my sexuality and now I’m only 22. Part of me almost felt like, ‘ I’m too late, I should have known this about myself, ‘so I didn’t validate myself, wondering all the time what I think is a natural part of some people’s process of coming into themselves. I started later to speak to people who had experiences similar to mine, such as friends of mine who realized they were gay or fluid. I only spoke to someone who didn’t know until the age of 23, so it doesn’t mean anything. When you realize doesn’t matter, it’s about celebrating and being able to embrace it. That’s what counts.”
Billy Porter in a Sam Ratelle creation ahead of the 2020 Grammy Awards in Los Angeles. Billy wears BAJA EAST and a bespoke hat from Sarah Sokol Millinery. Santiago Felipe / Getty Images
As a gay man, Billy Porter always wants to offer comforting words to others who still find their place in the world. On National Coming Out Day, he wanted everyone to know how worthy they are.
“I stand by you, no matter how you decide. We are all born with the right to be ourselves and to protect our humanity. We have feelings that deserve respect, and we need to know that we, like everyone else, belong. I am here to tell you that not only are you part of it, but you are loved and supported too. I see you and -plaud you for being just you. “
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Moana actor Auli’i Cravalho is openly bisexual and wants you to know that life is too short to be less than yourself.
“Love who you love, life is too short. The LGBTQIA + community is one we should learn from, protect and celebrate every day. Send your light into the world and accept all the deserved kindness that gets in your way. Breathe baby, you already have everything you need. “
December 6, 2018: Hayley Kiyoko attends Billboard’s 13th Annual Women in Music Gala at Pier 36 Shutterstock
She has been dubbed the “Lesbian Jesus” by fans and Hayley Kiyoko shares her beautiful words of comfort and strength forever with the world, both in her music and online.
“You are worth it. You are powerful. You will break barriers. You will be challenged. You will persevere. Your presence in this world is necessary and I am so proud of it wherever you are on your journey to self-love and self-discovery.” Go on.”