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Ashley Graham struggled to love her body while pregnant

Elle’s August issue. “I’ve got a couple of family members who are pregnant, and my instinct is to say, ‘Oh, do this, do that.’ But I stop myself every time, because I remember how I felt when everybody told me what to do and sent me their unsolicited advice and their lists. If there’s a question to be asked, ask it. But other than that, keep your trap shut and just let that mother figure it out.”” data-reactid=”17″>“The mommy-shaming on social media is out of control,” Graham, 32, shared with Kristen Bell in an interview for Elle’s August issue. “I’ve got a couple of family members who are pregnant, and my instinct is to say, ‘Oh, do this, do that.’ But I stop myself every time, because I remember how I felt when everybody told me what to do and sent me their unsolicited advice and their lists. If there’s a question to be asked, ask it. But other than that, keep your trap shut and just let that mother figure it out.”

Graham explained that the advice on how to parent came even before she became one. Now that she has a nearly 7-month-old baby boy, Isaac, at home with husband Justin Ervin, the couple is raising their child the way that they see fit.

“Everybody has an opinion, right?” she asked. “But I just kind of did what I wanted to do. Isaac is not sleep-trained, but he only wakes up maybe once or twice in the night, max. I feel 100 percent rested, so it’s not like I’m living in agony every day like, ‘He didn’t sleep last night.’ We’re walking into month (seven), and he’s screaming at the top of his lungs. He thinks it’s so fun to be louder than Mom and Dad. I think we’ve figured out the diapers we like, and we only have maybe one blowout a week. And I’m still breastfeeding.”

Graham breastfeeds her son, Isaac. (Photo: Justin Ervin for Elle)

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Along with her new journey into motherhood, Graham talked about experiencing a number of changes in her body since being pregnant and how it was difficult for the body-positive activist to practice what she’s long been preaching.

“Before I was even pregnant, that was always my hope for women in general, that they could learn to continue to love their bodies through the changes and the ups and downs. And then, when I got pregnant, I had to reimagine my relationship with my body with this creature inside me taking over,” she explained. “I was gaining weight so rapidly. Then, to get stretch marks on my stomach, that to me was like, ‘Oh my gosh. I can’t believe this happened.’ At first it felt devastating, and then when I met Isaac, I said, “No, this is exactly what every woman has talked about for ages. This is not just a battle wound. This is something that has changed my life forever, and I’m going to celebrate my new body.”